What do you think of when you first wake in the morning? At the end of the day, what has occupied your mind most of the time?

The Self-centered Heart

A mother worries about her son's tonsillitis. A gardener wonders how long it will take to finish the tree trimming job. An interior decorator is pleased with the improved design that occurred to him. An insurance agent is going over all the policy benefits before her big superannuation presentation. Fair enough, nothing extraordinary there.

But what about this? The mother's main concern is that her son won't be able to compete in the highland dancing and she won't get the recognition she craves. The gardener hopes to get an hour's lie down in the sun, in the boss's time. The interior decorator's "improvement" is just a cost cutting measure in his own interests, not his client's. The insurance agent treats the policy "benefits" as mere selling points, and has at heart the ten thousand dollars commission.

These imaginary people are not having terribly wicked thoughts. But a problem is becoming evident in their thinking. The problem is who is at the centre of their thoughts. They are self-centred.

Lost Secret of a Happy Life

Now there is nothing wrong with thinking about yourself. In fact, I'm trying to make you do that! The problem is thinking of yourself as the centre of the universe.

In Philippians 2:3-5 we are taught by the example of Jesus to think of ourselves as servants of others and putting their interests above our own. This may surprise you, because it is the lost secret of a happy life.

A TV commercial appearing in early 1990 included this quote: "It is more blissful to give than receive". The quote was followed with "Author Unknown". The unknown Person who made that statement was Jesus (Acts 20:35). He understands life. It is one of the paradoxes in life that the more you try to make others happy, the happier you yourself become. Of course, the most important Other is God. Strive first to please Him (1Jn 3:22). If you put Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last, that spells  JOY.

The Truly Satisfying Life

The truly satisfying life is lived as follows: "each one has received a gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God" (1Pe 4:10). The word for "gift" and "grace" which Peter uses (he wrote in Greek) is "charisma". We think of charisma as good looks, self-confidence, winning personality, sex appeal. But true charisma is possessing an understanding of your God-given gifts and doing with them what you were meant to do in stewardship and service.

The old vinyl records that we played on turntables had a locating hole in the centre. If the hole was off-centre, the music sounded weird. How does the "music" of your life sound?